Self destructive behavior is the act of hurting yourself. Applying pain, hurt and suffering to yourself is a self destructive behavior. Self destructiveness is the…
That same face
That same voice
That same aura
That Egocentric look
You see once they are before you.
Is more than enough reason why you shouldn’t forgive that person.
But there’s one reason enough for you to forgive and let go.
And that is what today’s word about?
Stay with me…
I remember all those emotions swell in my heart when ever I thought of how they hurt me, be it family, friends or anyone at all. And believe me it wasn’t as cool as I make it sound.
But I also remember how I couldn’t stay in the same room with them. How I hated the mere mention if their names, or how I avoided them like a plague , to avoid story that touches the heart. How I also wanted nothing to do with them ever again in my life.
Was i doing myself any good? Maybe Yes.
Maybe I was protecting my self from any future pain and betrayal.
Also Maybe No.
I may have been protecting my self but I was also destroying my heart. All those anger, pent up frustration, hatred, stored on the inside burning and ruining the chances of my heart ever been at peace or the thought that change could happen.
All because I couldn’t forgive.
I thought I was protecting myself but instead I was destroying myself.
What changed? you may ask
One thing. That one reason changed everything. And I’m telling you now.
“Can you boldly and confidently say that you have never hurt anyone?”
The answer to that question is that one reason enough for you to let go.
You’ve definitely hurt someone and yet you we’re forgiven. And even if you weren’t, can you stand to look into the mind of that person and see the hatred they feel for you. I bet you can’t.
Whoever said forgiveness is easy is a total liar.
Forgiveness isn’t easy.
Its one of the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
But it can be done.
You can’t just wake up and decide to forgive that person. It doesn’t happen that way.
But in time it can happen.
Time heals. Time is an illusion and with time brings chances and opportunities. To think. To embrace. To feel. To reconcile. Be it our thoughts, our actions, and reactions.
Talk to God. God is everything. There’s this scripture I love so much. It has commanded results for me.
The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.
Gods heart is a heart of love. A heart of peace. He can change everything. Its in his hands. If you choose to, if you talk to him about it, then he can heal your heart and restore its beauty. Bringing in peace.
You don’t forgive because the other person deserves it. You forgive because you deserve it.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you trust.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you loosen your boundaries.
It simply means letting go and letting God in.
Are you finding it hard to forgive? Has this post helped in anyway? Share your thoughts in the comment