Guys I must applaud you. You men are amazing. How do you guys get the heart to ask a lady out? I mean its really not an easy thing wooing a lady. Its like gambling and it could either be a win win or a total loss. Whoop! You guys have balls. And when they face rejection they still come out strong and healthy. You guys deserve a pat on the shoulder for all that you face in the hands of we ladies.
But can you guys stop doing this. Please just stop doing the two things I’m going to point out right now. I’m not a relationship coach but sometimes I hate it when you do this and so does most ladies.
1. The beginning line
I went to get something from a close by store that day and I noticed a car buying fruits by the road side. When I came back I still saw him and that was when he stopped me (I knew he saw me passed and probably waited till I came back to act). He wined down the glass.
“Hello”. I continued walking “Hello”, I heard again and turned back to see who needed my attention.
“Oh Hi”. I replied.
“Have we met before? You look familiar”. He asked curiously, expecting a conversation.
“No, I don’t think I know you”. I replied shaking my head sideways.
“Do you live around here? I’m trying to recall where I know you from”. He said again. Oh now he is trying to know where I live I thought to myself. “I’m very sure you don’t know me okay”. I said sternly trying to walk away
“By the way I’m Chris. And you really really look familiar. I feel like I know you from somewhere”. He repeated. This time I was fed up. And felt like punching him. Was this the best he could do? I wondered.
“Noooo!! You don’t know me and I don’t know you. Simple”. I replied with clenched teeth and stormed out, trying to be civilized, walked inside and burst out laughing.
Why use that line? Of all the dating line you could use, why that one? Don’t you know that it makes you men look foolish and hopeless (sorry to say) Why are you asking her if she’s familiar with you? Does she look like your mother or does she look like your TV crush or does she look like the girl you see in your dreams? Please don’t. Just greet her and turn back. Please I’m pleading.
2. Jumping the line of friendship.
You meet her today and next week your line is “Chika I really like you. Can we please go on a date together? Would you go on a date with me? For what? Are you John Wick? (laughs).
Let me say it in our Nigerian style “babe I like you. I really want you to be my girlfriend. I for like date you oh”
Don’t you know how to build friendship.
I’m not saying what you are feeling is a lie. Its alright if its love at first sight but please keep it to yourself. Don’t tell her three days after you met her that you love her so much and that since that day you’ve not been able to sleep.
Its the plans that you’ve laid out to achieve that is giving you sleepless night not her. Four years is not even enough to know someone so why jumping the line and trying to get a grown ass woman in just one weak or one month of meeting her.
Build friendship so that you’ll eventually get all of her. If you jump the line of friendship you may end up getting nothing or getting fragments of her.
To avoid rejection, disgrace and long term suffering, build friendship.
See you in 2020