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Today’s post is an extension of yesterday’s post. That you’re still here again means you’re awesome.
It was a very busy day at the office that day, i was over seeing the accounts while my boss was going through our customers details. It was at that time they walked in; My client and his wife. I was more familiar with the husband and less familiar with the wife.
“Hello sir, welcome”. I greeted.
“Thank you. Good afternoon”. He answered.
“Hi ma, hope you received our text message?” I asked.
“Oh. Yes i did, didn’t realize it was from you guys. Thank you”. She said in gratitude.
“You’re welcome”. I replied.
“Okay lets see what we can come up for you”, we began brainstorming for ideas and when we stood up to organize all the items we finalized on, that was when i saw what he looked like. And my mouth gave me away.
“By the way sir, you look cool in style and really amazing’, the wife turned and looked at me, my colleagues turned to this direction and smiled, ‘And for your age its very admirable. Well done sir”. I finally added smiling sheepishly.
“Wow! This girl you’re so funny. Thank you so much. I hope we’ll get a huge discount today”. He said smiling, while we all laughed and continued working.
After they left, the look on my bosses face told me she had something on her mind;
“Chika did you see how that man’s wife was looking at you, this girl, one day your mouth will put you in trouble”, she shook her head sideways, ”let the woman not think that you want to snatch her husband oh”. She added finally.
“For what? If she’s having negative thoughts, then that’s her business. She should be happy I’m appreciating her husband”. I said and walked away nonchalantly. The person i complimented was happy, i the complementer was happy and that was all that mattered.
The thought that i did something good didn’t waver, but the thought that i may have made someone think badly of me, or may have made them see me in a different light made it less appealing.
I had to ask this question to few people around me; Is it appropriate to compliment a person in the presence of their spouse or date? And here are their responses:
For me this is relative. If I know the couples I would compliment the person in front of his/her spouse. If I don’t know the couples, I may or may not compliment or I may compliment them both. I would do this because now there is a third person involved who is emotionally attached & I don’t want to cause any unnecessary issue or trigger any suggestions because of my compliment.
Yes anyone can. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
I would say; Thread with caution.
Because i may see it as disrespectful
If my lady is there, even if she is okay with it I will use my head to tell the other person that there are boundaries.
She’ll feel respected.
Because sometimes people can overdo and others can take it wrongly when they feel you have said what they wish they told their spouse.
I would say. This is for the bold. If you’re bold enough to do it. Than go for it. An honest compliment is never a wrong thing. You never can tell they may appreciate each other more, when is stranger is seeing something good in the person besides them.
I would also love to hear your responses on this matter. I’ll be in the comment section.